Are Cinema Dates A Waste Of A Date Night?

Going on a date to the cinema has a real romantic notion, doesn’t it? Think back to being a teenager and sitting in the back row. I remember going on one of my first dates with Mr P to the cinema (our very first date is something I still tease him about – he came over to my house and cooked me sweet and sour chicken with pasta. Mmmm!) and in our 20s, watching movies together was one of our favourite things to do. Our DVD collection was huge (remember those? Round silver discs you put in DVD players to watch movies on? How retro!) Friends would tease us that it was like coming over to Blockbusters and would regularly leave with at least one or two films to take home. We’re still owed some late fees from those friends…

Since becoming parents, watching movies happens mostly on our sofa. In those early days, films were a great source of entertainment while we sat up with a wide awake baby at 3am, and a few months later, when we were in a vague routine, we’d put the little one to bed at 7pm and settle down with a movie (I’d obviously fall asleep midway through it).

And now, as parents to a four-year-old, we cherish nights where we have a babysitter and can head out together on a date.

 

Printable Popcorn boxes

Image: Design Eat Repeat (awesome printable popcorn boxes – check them out!)

 

But going back to my original question – are cinema dates for parents a waste? We tend to choose going to the pub or out for a meal, our thinking being that we can ignore each other while we check Facebook and Twitter chat to each other, set the world to rights and (assuming a lot of wine and beer is consumed) have a right old laugh. But if we went to the cinema, we wouldn’t be having a conversation, and we’d be doing something we could do on our sofa while our daughter sleeps upstairs.

Not much point right?

Except this week, there’s a movie out at the cinema that we’re both desperate to see. Gone Girl.

I read the book, and despite it being a bit hit and miss, the trailers for the film have had me dying to see it for months. Ben Affleck looks so creepy in the lead role and I’ve heard, from friends who saw advance screenings, that it’s even better than the book. So we’re breaking with tradition and going on a cinema date this weekend. We’re heading to Cardiff to check out a really cool sounding afternoon tea and staying overnight at the Park Plaza Hotel, which is just a ten minute walk from the Cardiff Cineworld, so once we’ve stuffed ourselves with afternoon tea, we’re going to go to an early evening showing of Gone Girl and then hit a bar.

Perfect or what? Cinema date nights, I think I might have been wrong about you…

 

 This post was written in association with Cineworld – big thanks for the tickets to see Gone Girl in Cardiff. We are really looking forward to it!

 

Bad Mums’ Club: Laughing When You Really Shouldn’t

It’s funny isn’t it, how one minute you’re a daft student, drinking shots in a bar with sticky floors or sitting at the back of a lecture giggling with friends about some private joke…. and the next minute, you’re a GROWN UP with KIDS.

Let’s ignore the fact that I have no idea how this happens so quickly and focus on one thing: has anyone else mastered the art of keeping a straight face to their kids when they really want to fall about laughing? I haven’t.

I’m supposed to be a mature, responsible adult, but sometimes I end up sniggering away like a student who finds the word ‘flange’ amusing. (True story: one of my Uni mates and I used to see who could say the grossest word. It freaked him out that I often won.)

Just yesterday, my four year old (who likes to make up words and swap letters around – so she might say “Dummy and Maddy” instead of “Mummy and Daddy” just to be silly) blurted out:

“Mucka mucka! Fuckafuckalucka”

I burst out laughing.

“Why are you laughing Mummy?”

“No reason – you’re just being a silly billy. Come on! Let’s go!”

Phew – totally got out of that one.

But it’s not just her accidentally saying rude words that make me laugh. The other night, she was in the bath and splashed so hard, the whole of the bathroom floor got soaked. Mr P was NOT happy. He got the stern parent act down like a boss. Me, on the other hand, I got the giggles and had to leave the room before the four-year-old saw me.

So, come on, any parents with older kids who are reading this – what are your tricks? How do you keep a straight face when you need to?

 

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• This post is part of the Bad Mums’ Club – a series of posts by bloggers on our ‘failings’ as mums. Of course, we know we’re not really bad parents, but sometimes it’s good for the soul to confess a little and share the not-so-perfect side of parenting. If you’re a blogger and have a post like this, link it up below and we’ll come read your post. If you’re not a blogger, you can access all of this month’s Bad Mums’ Club posts below and have a nice little read. Don’t forget to visit MorganaAimee and Katie to read their Bad Mums’ Club posts!



Gorgeous H&M Kidswear And Presents – A Vlog Haul!

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So after I enjoyed doing a vlog last week on what motherhood means to me, I’ve done another one!

I’ve been thinking about doing more video for a while, but my lack of skills and knowledge when it comes to filming and editing has so far put me off. But seeing other bloggers like Kate from Wit Wit Woo,  Charlotte from Write Like No One’s Watching and Kiran from Mummy Says get their vlog on – and doing it so well – has inspired me. So I’m teaching myself how to do it all. Hence why my videos are, hmm, basic for now, to say the least. But I will learn how to do better captions, title sequences, music, editing, voiceovers and the like – just you wait.

This vlog is me wittering on about some gorgeous buys from H&M Kids. And apologies, I do say the words “gorgeous” and “cute” a lot. Which is a bit annoying. But then, the stuff I’m showing you IS SO GORGEOUS AND CUTE. So let me off, yeah?

Please let me know what you think – either by liking the video over on YouTube, commenting here, commenting on YouTube …. and if you have any vlogging tips, please share them with me!

Thinking About Motherhood

Alison Perry

I probably think a bit too much. Do you do that? I find myself reflecting on life, and what I’ve achieved and where I’m going next. I worry about things I’ve done, things I’ve not done, and things I need to do. All of that is fairly normal, I guess.

One of the things I think about most of all is being a mum. Do we spoil our daughter? Are we firm enough with her? Are we too firm? Will I regret working full time, when she goes to school and we have no choice anymore about how much time we spend with her? I worry about her going to school and being bullied. I worry we don’t brush her teeth thoroughly enough and she’ll end up with fillings. I worry she watches too much TV.

But I also think about how lucky we are. I think back to the pre-parenthood days and can’t remember how we filled our days. Yes, we had lovely long lies and sat around in our pyjamas watching T4, but really, what was the point of any of it?

In the last 12 months or so, I’ve come to the conclusion that ALL that really matters is family. (I know, newsflash…) It matters so much more than anything else – having nice clothes, my job, having a tidy house…

I try not to let memories of being a new mum (ugh, tiredness, anxiety, loneliness…) affect how I feel now. I bloody love being a mum now. But it’s been the biggest, steepest learning curve. Continue reading

Children’s Birthday Parties: The Fantasy v The Reality

It was my daughter’s fourth birthday last week (sob! Where is the time going! Etc Etc) and as I was planning her birthday celebrations, it occurred to me that my idea of a dream party for her is somewhat different to the reality she’d be getting.

Obviously, she had a fantastic time (birthday parties are her FAVOURITE thing ever – seriously, she’d go to one every day if she could) but as someone who regularly pins stylish kids’ party images on Pinterest and sighs in delight when I see bloggers sharing their beautifully decorated (and themed) celebrations, I feel the need to confess how I do things in actual real life…

Decorations – the fantasy

Gorgeous paper honeycomb balls and trendy black letter banners spelling out ‘Happy birthday’.

honeycomb balls garland from Oh Happy day

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