I’ve Only Just Started To Enjoy Motherhood

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I’ve been a mum for three and a half years, and I’ve only recently started to enjoy it.

When I say that, I don’t mean that I hated being a mum before that. But it’s only now that I can look back on my time as a mum, so far, that it has dawned on me that motherhood feels different now. This feels like a terrible confession to make, so allow me to explain.

When my daughter was very young, I struggled. When I went back to work, I coped much better, but I used to dread the weekends coming. Isn’t that awful? As the weekend approached, I’d have an anxious knot form in my stomach, worried about how I’d cope all weekend, at home with my family. My family, who are lovely and amazing, might I add. Mr P is one of those real hands-on dads who’d get up with me for every night feed and who splits everything we have to do 50/50 (actually, he probably does more around the house than me….) And my gorgeous baby daughter (as she was then), learning to walk and reacting with joy to watching In The Night Garden. We’d do fun stuff at the weekend, like visit the park, but the days were based around her naps, her snacks, making sure she didn’t kick off and start screaming in public (like all one-year-olds inevitably do). I was a big ball of anxiety.

Other mums would speak about (or blog about) how blissful life with their kids was. Some would tweet about being sad that the school holidays were over and the kids were going back to school. Some would say that being a mum was their calling. And I just didn’t really get it. I’d look at what they were saying, and then look again at my life, and how I was feeling, and it didn’t add up. There were moments of joy, of bliss, and I never once wished I wasn’t a mum. But I didn’t really ‘get’ motherhood.

But recently, something must have changed, because I don’t feel like that anymore. Now, I genuinely look forward to seeing my daughter every day after work. I’ll be sitting on the train home (or standing, wedged in between a cross city worker or two) and I’ll smile, thinking about seeing her little face. I get that Friday Feeling again – a real excitement about the weekend arriving and knowing I’ll be spending time with my family. Whether we have no real plans, and we’ll just be lounging around in our PJs, watching TV, playing shop and drawing… or whether we have an action-packed weekend of seeing friends and squeezing in a birthday party or two… I know we’ll have a brilliant weekend.

Now that my daughter is three, we have real conversations. She asks (a lot of) questions, like “Why do mummies have boobs?” and “Why are there pipes under the road?”. She makes me laugh with her daft facial expressions and voices. We have kitchen discos (her waving a wand, me riding a hobby horse) and she reads us stories (she can’t actually read – she’s not a genius – she just remembers the stories and repeats them to us.) She runs through to our bedroom every morning, shouting “morning time!” before climbing up onto our bed and giving me the best cuddle ever. We play teachers, where she tells me where to sit, what my name is (I’m usually Little Georgina) and she is teacher, telling me what to do. We sing along to Frozen, loudly.

I love hanging out with her. She’s such a cool little person. All my anxiety and worry about family time has vanished, and I’m enjoying being a mum.

Are You Up To The No Junk Challenge?

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Something I feel strongly about – but need to work on – as a parent is making sure my daughter eats healthy food. Because she’s at pre-school five days a week, and eats healthy, freshly cooked meals there, we tend to let things slide a bit at the weekends. Her weekend meals usually consist of sausages and peas, microwave fish pie and broccoli or fish fingers and beans. Not the worst diet in the world, but I want to start giving her less processed food. In fact, that goes for me and Mr P too. We rely too heavily on convenience foods. And eat too many jelly babies and chocolate treats. So – this is why the Organix No Junk Challenge is right up my street.

Organix No Junk Challenge

What is it? Rising levels of obesity in kids, the high levels of salt, salt and sugar in foods targeted at toddlers and children, the amount of colourings and flavourings in processed foods and the fact that the food industry is currently self-regulated are all a huge concern today. Organix have launched the No Junk  Challenge which asks parents to watch a video, share it with other parents, and sign their pledge.

What should I be doing differently? The No Junk Challenge is simple – it’s asking parents to look at the ingredients of the foods we’re buying for our kids. If we don’t recognise any of the ingredients, ask ourselves if we really want to be feeding it to our children.

What difference will signing the pledge make? We’ll have a healthier family! Plus, Organix will then call on the food industry and the government to provide stricter controls on the levels of added salt, fat and sugar and artificial additives in children’s food. At the moment, no-one with a long term commitment is taking responsibility for what is in the public’s [and children’s] food. This has to change.

I’ll be making a real effort next week – and from now on – to cook proper, healthy meals for my three-year-old, and I’ll be checking out the ingredients on some of her snacks too… if you have any tips or recipes, please share them with me and I’ll let you know how I get on!

Big thanks to Organix for collaborating with Not Another Mummy Blog. For information on how I work with brands, see my Work With Me page.

A Weekend At The Ickworth

Sometimes, when you’re working hard every day, and everyone in the family has been run down with colds and bugs, and you’ve had lots of busy weekends rushing around seeing family and friends, it’s good to just….

Stop.

Last month, it became apparent that both me and Mr P were in need of some TLC and a breather from ‘real life’, and what better way than a family mini break in the countryside? So we packed up our car and, along with the three-year-old, we headed for The Ickworth in Suffolk. Part of The Luxury Family Hotel group, The Ickworth is housed in the east wing of Ickworth House. The beautiful building was designed by an Italian architect in the 18th Century, and was the home of the Earl of Bristol. Sold to the National Trust in the 1950s, the east wing was kept as a family home for the Marquess of Bristol until 1998 when it was sold to the National Trust… who have since leased it to the Luxury Family Hotel Group. Which might feel like a bit of a school lesson, but it shows the real history that this amazing place has.

The Ickworth is one of those hotels that manages to strike a perfect balance between being truly lovely for the grown ups and welcoming kids with open arms. As you walk in the grand entrance, friendly staff greet you and so does a large basket of toys with a sign explaining that they can be borrowed and enjoyed during your stay. A sign in the reception area tells you that there is a hotel dog, who is very child-friendly, but mustn’t be fed by guests. Children’s laughter accompanies the clinking of china tea cups and saucers, drifting through from the lounge areas.

While we were being shown our room – we stayed in the lovely Herbert room – I could feel my shoulders sink lower and any ‘real life’ stresses drift away. I immediately spotted Orla Kiely mugs with our in-room tea and coffee and a fab purple retro-looking phone… and knew this place would serve us well for the next couple of days.

Orla Kiely mugs

the Ickworth, Suffolk

The Ickworth hotel room

The Ickworth hotel ensuite

As soon as we were left alone in the room, things went something like this: Continue reading

Sshh! I Secretly Love That My Daughter Loves Disney’s Frozen

In January, something in our lives changed. No seriously, it did!

We took our three-year-old to the cinema for the first time. It was something both Mr P and I had been looking forward to, because a) we love watching movies and b) it’s 90 minutes of quiet time, right? (Side note: a dad sitting in front of us actually fell asleep and woke himself up by snoring. Love it.)

The movie we went to see was Frozen. Given that we had been watching Tangled on repeat for around a year, we reckoned it was a fairly safe bet she’d like it. We were wrong. She didn’t like it. She loved it. In fact, she cried as the credits rolled at the end. In the days that followed, she asked to see “the ice princesses” on YouTube a lot – thank goodness the Disney YouTube channel had around six clips, including of course the now-classic anthem Let It Go.

But it was a couple of weeks ago that my three-year-old’s passion for Frozen really kicked in. The DVD release. Since then, we’ve watched the film over 20 times. My daughter asks to watch it while she’s eating her breakfast, while she’s eating her pre-bedtime snacks, oh and pretty much any time we’re in the house, ever. She’s now nearly word-perfect when singing Let It Go (and yeeeees, I have approximately 12 videos of her singing it in typical proud-mum fashion.) It’s OK, though, because I’m fairly sure the other diners in Pizza Express (and the customers in Marks and Spencer, and everyone walking along Bromley High Street) appreciate her ear-piercing warbling too. Er, right? Continue reading

5 Things You Need To Know About New ISAs

Saving for the future with a piggy bank

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Newsflash: having a family can be a financial drain and can create a whole new level of worry about budgeting and saving for the future. (It’s not really news, I just wanted to get your attention.)

Seriously, though, I do worry about things like: should I be putting money away now for my daughter’s (possible) university education? Should I be putting money into a savings account for her to gain access to when she’s 21? And what kind of savings account should I even go for? It’s enough to make your brain start hurting a bit.

The start of a new financial year means that everyone over 16 gets a new cash ISA allowance. But as of July 1st 2014, things are changing, with the introduction of the new ISA (or NISA – sounds nice-a, right?)

A bit confused? Here’s what you need to know…

1. NISAs will have a cash allowance of a whopping £15,000. This means you can save up to £15k a year and earn tax-free interest on it. Get in.

2. Unlike before, when you could save up to £5,940 in a cash ISA and up to £11,880 in stocks and shares, now you can split your £15,000 allowance between a cash NISA and a New Investment ISA in any way you like, allowing you a wider range of investments and flexibility.

3. You can open a  2014-2015 ISA now, and it’ll automatically convert into a NISA on July 1st, when you can top the amount up to £15,000.

4. It’s super-flexible. You can:

• change the amount you invest, up or down

• stop payments

• restart payments

• take all of the money out

• take some of the money out

• transfer money in and out from another NISA, including transferring from a New Cash ISA into a New Investment ISA and vice versa.

• close your plan

5. You can transfer a Cash ISA into another Cash ISA or move it to an Investment ISA. New ISAs will still allow you to do just that. However, with an existing Investment ISA, you can only transfer it into another Investment ISA. However, from 1 July 2014, the New ISA will also enable you to transfer your savings from Investment ISAs to New Cash ISAs as you wish. Win.

 

You can read more in this helpful guide from Scottish Friendly – or watch this video which explains it all!

 

 

• This post was commissioned by –  and sponsored by – Scottish Friendly. Image credit: 401(k)