10 Things I’ve Learned In 2016


Yes it’s a massive cliché but this time of year is perfect for looking ahead to the coming year, making plans (like 2017 is going to be the year we tidy out and organise the under-the-stairs-cupboard… honestly my life really is THIS exciting) and looking back at the year that’s just been, taking stock, working out what you could have done differently and giving yourself a quiet pat on the back for the achievements. I think it’s a combination of the down time we have over Christmas, the fact that everyone else is taking down time too (it’s pretty much the only time of year where you know you won’t get work emails asking you to do things, something that often happens when you take time off in other months) and the impending new year that makes everyone take a step back from their day to day life. And it’s a good thing – in fact, we should really do this more often and this is actually the first of the ten things I’ve learned in 2016….

  1. Stop and take stock. A tip I picked up from clever and wise ladies Hollie who runs Yes Mum and Steph who runs Don’t Buy Her Flowers at a Mothers Meeting event the other week. Regularly take time out to look back at what you’ve achieved – it’s so easy to get caught up in day to day life, and forget to do this. I often find myself stuck in this cycle of negative anxiety where I worry I’m not doing enough or that I’m not good enough. Then I sit and look at what I have achieved and it’s like a light switches on and I realise I’m doing OK.
  2. Meal-planning is a game changer. In my never-ending quest for balance in my life, I spent the best part of 2016 telling myself that I really should start planning meals and being more organised with grocery shopping – instead of it getting to 3pm every day and me thinking “Argh, what can we have for dinner?” and going to the supermarket before the school run. It sounds like a small, silly thing, but it was causing me mild levels of stress every day and the thought of spending time planning meals seemed just as stressful. But blow me down with a feather – I was wrong. For the past three weeks I’ve been doing meal plans and then doing an online grocery order for the ingredients and food I’d need. AND IT’S SO MUCH EASIER. I honestly think it’s a life changing realisation. So if you don’t already do this, get involved.
  3. Follow your gut instinct. In 2016, I switched things up a bit and after running this blog as a hobby for five years – on the side of my magazine writing/editing career – I decided to focus more on the blog and less on “my job”. But what actually happened was that my blog became my job. It probably took me six months of thinking and mulling and pondering before I took the plunge – well it’s a big thing to just stop doing what you’ve spent 16 years building. I probably should have done it sooner but fear and a feeling that I was about to do the wrong thing stopped me.
  4. Sometimes it’s good to just admit you don’t like something. This year, I realised something big: I don’t enjoy swimming. I know, I know. How can someone not enjoy swimming? But I just can’t be bothered with the whole “getting wet” element – and I’m not that strong a swimmer so the exercise part seems pointless to me. I’ve spent years pretending to like it, because everyone else likes it, and well, who doesn’t like swimming? Admitting it to myself felt brilliant. Like a huge (wet) weight was lifted from my shoulders. Luckily, Mr P loves swimming so our new agreement is that he takes the six-year-old swimming while I watch. Or you know, stay at home watching Netflix.
  5. Keep Facebook at arm’s length. We all love a bit of Facebook, right? How else would we know that our cousin’s toddler smeared Sudocrem all over his face or see holiday snaps from that person we worked with, ten years ago? It’s become a valuable way of keeping in touch with lots of people in our lives, but I realised in 2016 that it works best when I limit how often I access it. I deleted the app from my phone and the main difference is now I don’t have notifications popping up every time someone comments / likes / replies to something I’ve posted. It’s like a breath of fresh air. Now, I choose when to log on and catch up on what’s been happening (spoiler: it’s often not very much).
  6. I’ll never be a #mumboss but I’m happy to be a mum and a boss. It’s something that seems to divide us, the phrase #mumboss (I can’t seem to write it without the hashtag….) but for me, personally, while I’m really happy to be known as a mum (I have a child after all) and a boss (well does running a blog count as being a boss of a business?), I’m not on board with the #mumboss thing (there goes the hashtag again). Like “mumpreneur” and “girl boss”, anything that separates our achievements from the achievements of others, based on our gender, feels patronising. I know that lots of women like the phrase because they feel being a mum and running a business is an achievement – this isn’t about me belittling that – but being a mum and a boss shouldn’t be any more of an achievement than being a dad and a boss… and until that’s the case, I think labelling us as #mumboss(es) moves us further away from achieving equality. Unless we start calling all dads who run a business #dadboss, that is…
  7. You really are what you eat. After battling with hormone imbalances that caused anxiety and depression for over a year, in March, I cut right back on sugar*, just to see if it made a difference. And oh my giddy aunt, it did. My problem skin cleared right up, my mood lifted, my anxiety all but disappeared… it was INCREDIBLE. So, if you’re reading this and you suffer from bad PMT, or just feel low around the time of your period, I say give it a go. Honestly, it really worked. (*I still eat fruit/carbs and drink wine…. obvs.)
  8. A child-free break can do wonders for the soul. Kids are amazing, aren’t they? My daughter is a little six-year-old wonder and sometimes I look at her, with her gappy-toothed smile and think “Oh my goodness, I made you”. But sometimes, leaving your child(ren) with a grandparent/relative/friend for a night or two and heading off to a B&B or hotel is the best thing you could ever do. One of my favourite phrases is “You can’t pour from an empty cup” and taking time away from being a parent gives you a chance to just be you, reflect on life and refill that cup.
  9. Own what you do. For too long, I’ve been a bit apologetic about this blog. I’d play it down, and feel a bit embarrassed if a magazine work colleague mentioned it. Likewise, I’d cringe if someone from the magazine publishing world commented on a social media post – “Oh crikey,” I’d think. “They probably think I’m a massive dick.” But recently, I’ve totally changed my outlook and without wanting to sound big headed, I’ve realised that what I’ve achieved is pretty good. I’ve created a website and social platforms that have turned into my job – people read what I write and they chat back to me on social media. So I’m no longer a bit embarrassed about it – I’m owning it.
  10. Show yourself some grace. I’m pretty bad at beating myself up at the end of the day for not ticking off everything on my To Do list, or for giving my six-year-old fish fingers, peas and chips for tea again because I didn’t have time to get in anything better, or for not texting a friend for months. It sometimes feels like my whole life is made up of different reasons to feel horribly guilty and inadequate. But this year I learned that it’s good to show yourself some grace. Go easy on yourself. Set easier targets (smaller To Do lists), shrug your shoulders and say “Well I did my best.”

I’d love to know what you’ve learned in 2016 too – tell me, please, so we can all share our collective wisdom! PS Here’s what I learned in 2015Top photo: Philippa James.



  1. Aileen
    December 30, 2016 / 9:12 am

    It sounds obvious but I have learnt health is so important. If you have reasonable/good health you take it for granted but you really shouldn’t. This year I have watched my already ill sister struggle so much and every time we think she might get a bit of a break, something else comes along and nearly flattens her. The brace should keeps soldiering on, going to work to look after people less fortunate than ourselves, remains a great aunty to my 4 year old and keeps smiling. To this end I have decided to respect my health a bit more and exercise (because she physically can’t) eat and drink a bit better (not this month obviously) and find time for my own mental health. I am going into 2017 determined to be healthy so fingers crossed!!

  2. December 30, 2016 / 9:21 am

    I love those posts! In 2016, I learned resilience. I’m stronger than I thought I was! Wishing you all the best for 2017!
    x Clem

  3. December 30, 2016 / 10:26 am

    Amen to that Alison! I so admire your writing skills and when I grow up I want to be just like you happy 2017 !

  4. December 30, 2016 / 11:59 am

    I really enjoyed reading this post Alison. So much to take from it! Funnily enough, I have already discussed with Ross the fact that we will start meal planning in the new year. I am completely with you on the #mumboss thing and I need to take a leaf out of your book on points 5 and 9.

  5. December 30, 2016 / 2:02 pm

    Here’s to owning it! I’m incredibly uncomfortable discussing my blog with other people too, but you are so right, it is something to be proud of. I’m going to take a leaf out of your book on this. I am totally the same about swimming. I enjoy it when we’re on holiday, but under any other circumstances, it feels like torture to me. Happy New Year and wishing you the very best for 2017!! xxx

  6. December 30, 2016 / 6:23 pm

    Such a positive post and some great advice to take forward into the new year. Totally with you on #mumboss (and also not being able to write it without the hashtag).

  7. December 30, 2016 / 6:31 pm

    I love this post and was nodding along. We meal plan religiously and it makes life so much easier but whilst our kitchen has been a mess during out extension work we’ve been living out the freezer and I hate it. I cannot wait to get the meal plan sorted again! Happy New Year lovely x

  8. December 30, 2016 / 8:26 pm

    Oh Alison I do love this. I love your blog, always have and you are a bit of a gem too. OWN what you do will be my new mantra.I am also awkward a lot of the time about the blog, almost apologising for the fact that I make money from it.

  9. December 30, 2016 / 9:33 pm

    100% with you on the #mumboss. I’m quite sure my husband would ever refer to himself as a dad boss as he works and fathers, so I’m certainly not taking mum boss on any time soon.

    I love this post – I’m taking stuff away from it!!

  10. December 31, 2016 / 8:33 am

    I love this post and found myself nodding along! Meal planning is on my to-do list for 2027!! Have a lovely NYE tonight and here’s to a fabulous 2017. Xx

  11. December 31, 2016 / 8:38 am

    I think I learned last year that you have to let people go , If they snerr at you or look down on you they just are not going to change that and its damaging. Stick with those who love and root for you

  12. December 31, 2016 / 3:22 pm

    I am always so curious about what people have learned the last year. What is you said about Facebook is probably really wise. I really admire you and your blog. You should be very proud of it but I often feel rather embarrassed when people that I know ask about it. Look forward to hearing all about your new adventure in 2017!

  13. January 1, 2017 / 11:19 pm

    I said on your FB page, but I really do love this! Meal planning makes things so much easier and we’ve been doing this since Freddie was a baby, and it saves SO much time (and money). This year I too am going to own my blog and not act all embarrassed by it- I love it, earn from it now, get to work flexibly around the kids and shouldn’t care if others think it’s weird! Happy NY lovely, and hope 2017 is ace for you xx

  14. January 3, 2017 / 10:54 pm

    I so so so need to meal plan. A great post, as always x

  15. January 5, 2017 / 7:11 pm

    I particularly love the last point. Brilliant list. Here’s to another great year for you xx

  16. January 6, 2017 / 10:11 am

    God I so agree with so much of this! I really really need no.8 at the moment, really trying to practice no.10, and just embarked on no.2!

  17. January 29, 2017 / 9:18 pm

    Love this post. Showing yourself some grace is sooooo important. Crikey we aren’t superheroes/heroines and we can’t physically do everything! A cool round up for you and your year x Sunita

  18. Rachael
    September 4, 2017 / 10:02 pm

    A lot of these resonate with me. I enjoyed reading

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