Last Thursday, Peaches Geldof, mum to four month old Astala, was pushing her son in his pram when the uneven pavement caused the pram to tip forwards. Little Astala toppled out before being scooped up by his mum.
The first thought that went through my mind when I saw the photos was “Ooh, she’s got an Olive & Moss Louis the Lion blanket – cute!”
The second thought that went through my mind was “Eek, Peaches didn’t even put her phone down while rescuing her baby from the ground?”
And then it got me thinking – judgemental much? Us mums make snap judgements about our friends and about people we don’t know all the time. ALL the time. During today, I heard various mums say things like “She probably wasn’t concentrating – she was chatting on the phone while pushing him”, “The baby wasn’t even strapped into his pram”, “She has one of those trendy flimsy prams” and “She didn’t even drop her phone to pick him up”.
But here’s the thing – all of those things could well be true, but what does it matter? It doesn’t make Peaches a bad mum and it could easily have happened to me or you. In the heat of the moment, we do daft things, and Peaches may well have thought afterwards “I can’t believe I didn’t just drop my phone”.
We’ve all been on the receiving end of judging glances and comments. When my daughter was around 15 months old, I sat her next to me in Pret A Manger, turned away for a split second to grab a toy from the buggy, and she fell head first under the table. She screamed and cried, I picked her up and gave her kisses and cuddles, and the packed-out cafe collectively turned towards me and telepathically said “Bad mother. Everyone knows you don’t even turn your back for a second.”
So if we’ve all been on the receiving end, why are we still so judgemental? Ooh, her child watches too much TV. They both work full time, poor child stuck in nursery so much. Have you seen the designer clothes they dress their baby in? She didn’t breastfeed. They weaned their baby at four months – four months! Have you heard the way she talks to her toddler – she used the ‘naughty’ word.
Enough. Enough with the judging. We’re all just trying to muddle along and do the best we can. Let’s be supportive of each other. *Group hug*